I’m six weeks postpartum with two kids two and under. It’s been beautiful and wonderful, but it’s also been one of the most difficult times of my life. If you’re navigating life with a newborn and a toddler, I get it — the sleep deprivation, the chaos, the constant juggling. Here’s what helped me survive the first month (and actually feel like a functioning human).

1. Have a support system

Even if your family lives far away, finding people to lean on is essential. For me, my mom came to visit two weeks in, and having FaceTime check-ins before and after her visit made all the difference. Ask for help, accept help, and lean into your village — even virtually.

2. Invest in a good stroller

The Mockingbird stroller was a game-changer for solo doctor’s appointments and errands. Switching from a single stroller (which we purchased when my first was born) to a double stroller meant I could (almost) instantly manage both kids without losing my mind.

3. Diapers. Lots of diapers.

We were all in diapers. Personally, I loved the Always postpartum diapers this time around — forget the mesh underwear and cheap pads. Comfort matters.

4. Let go of the “everything has to be done” mentality

Nothing is going to be perfect and accepting that early on is key. Dishes will pile up. Everyone will eat cereal for dinner. Laundry will probably stay in the basket. That’s okay. Remember that survival is your goal, not perfection.

5. Shower (seriously)

Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish — it’s necessary. Even a five-minute shower can make you feel like a person again and help you care for your little ones. Hygiene isn’t a privilege, it’s a priority. Treat it as non-negotiable self-care and put the baby somewhere safe.

6. Include your toddler

Toddlers want to help, and they can! Have them put laundry in the washer, hand you diapers, or fetch wipes. It keeps them engaged and gives you a small, much-needed assist.

7. Stay hydrated (and clever about it)

I don’t know about you, but I’m so much more likely to reach for water throughout the day if it’s in a cute bottle.

My Owala water bottle has been a lifesaver. I can drink while holding the baby, and my toddler can’t sneak it because the straw is hidden. Toss it in the diaper bag, and you’ll actually (well.. maybe) remember to hydrate.

8. Choose (many) gentle baby products

I didn’t expect my newborn would react to the wipes we’ve been using for my first since she was born. Have a few different options around, even if they’re just samples. The truth is, you never know what your kiddos will react to. Parasol wipes were gentle, effective, and a huge sanity-saver to have on hand.

9. Plan easy meals

Cereal is your friend, but also think of snacks and meals you can prep ahead. String cheese, fruit, pre-cut veggies, or simple freezer meals can save you from hangry meltdowns. Keep the kitchen stocked with grab-and-go items so you can feed everyone without stress.

My Crock-Pot was a lifesaver during this time because I was able to prep in the morning while my newborn napped and my toddler was busy playing.

10. Create small routines

Even one tiny routine makes a difference. For example, bedtime for the toddler while the newborn naps, or a quick morning check-in for yourself with coffee. Predictable little patterns give your day some rhythm and your sanity a fighting chance.

Going from one child to two is messy, exhausting, and full of surprises. Some days feel impossible, and that’s normal. These small systems, practical tools, and little hacks made my first month survivable — and helped me feel like I could actually enjoy the chaos.

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